让我们来看看在伊斯兰教之下，事情会有怎样的不同：

Let us look at how things would be different under Islam :

这是你对孩子的生活拥有最大掌控力的时期。他或她完全依赖你的供养与引导。伊斯兰教赋予孩子你必须履行的权利。这些权利包括：

This is the period when you find yourself most in control of your child’s life. He or she is entirely dependent upon you for support and guidance. Islam gives your child rights over you that you must fulfil. These include :

选择一位好母亲/好父亲：

Choosing a good mother/father :

甚至在你的孩子尚未受孕之前，你对他们的责任就已经开始了。阿伊莎传述，先知ﷺ说："你们要为你们的后代选择合适的母亲，并娶一位善良的女子为妻。" 伊玛目哈基姆（Al-Hakim）辑录。

Even before your children are conceived, your duty towards them has already begun. ‘A’isha narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Choose the correct mother for your seed, and get married to a good woman.” Al-Hakim.

2. 提供食物、住所和衣物：

2. Providing food, shelter and clothing :

这是你作为父母的责任。艾布·达五德传述，先知ﷺ说："一个人若忽视了自己所负责照顾的人，这对他来说就足够构成罪过了。"

This is your duty as a parent. Abu Daud narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “It is enough sin for a person that he ignores those whom he is responsible for.”.

教导他们宗教（正道）：

Teaching them the deen :

Ibn ‘Abbas 传述：先知（saw）说：“你们当遵行安拉的命令，远离安拉的禁令；也要命令你们的子女遵守安拉的命令，远离安拉的禁令，这样你们和子女才能免受火狱之灾。”——伊本·哲利尔（Ibn Jurayr）

Ibn ‘Abbas narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Act upon the obedience to Allah and avoid the prohibitions of Allah, and order your children to abide by the commandments of Allah and to avoid the prohibitions of Allah, and by that you protect yourself and them from the Hellfire.” Ibn Jurayr.

当你照顾好这些事情时，你不仅履行了对孩子的责任，它们也是你在后世所能获得的巨大回报的源泉。

When you take care of these issues, you not only fulfil your responsibilities to your child, but they are a source of great reward for you in the life to come.

这才是真正麻烦开始的时候。你的孩子有了自己的想法，第一次开始做一些你并没有要求他或她去做的事情。

This is when the real problems start. Your child develops a mind of his or her own, and for the first time starts to do things that you did not necessarily ask them to do.

但如果你把西方的年轻人与在伊斯兰社会制度的环境中所培养出的年轻人相比较，你会发现你的大部分担忧都会消散。在这里，他们作为儿子或女儿的责任便显现出来：

But if you compare youth in the West to youth who have been cultured by the environment of the Islamic Social System, you will find that most of your fears are allayed. Here their duties as a son or daughter become apparent :

1. 不得约会

1. No Dating :

媒体给年轻人描绘了一种形象：如果没有男朋友或女朋友，那一定是他们自身有什么问题。在伊斯兰教中，如果你有男朋友或女朋友，那么说明你的生活方式出了问题。男女隔离的原则不仅能最大限度地减少诱惑，还能保障男女双方的尊严与尊重。相反，伊斯兰教劝导人们，子女一旦达到适婚（即成熟）的年龄，就应尽快为他们完婚。安拉（SWT）说：“你们不要接近私通，那确是下流的事，而且是恶劣的道路。”[TMQ 17:32]

The media paints an image for youth that if they don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend, there must be something wrong with them. In Islam, if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, there is something wrong with your lifestyle. The policy of segregation not only ensures that the temptation to do this is minimised, it also guarantees the preservation of dignity and respect for both men and women. Instead, Islam recommends you to get your children married as soon as they are able (i.e. mature). Allah (swt) says, “Do not come near zina (fornication or adultery), for it is a shameful deed and an evil, opening the road to other evils.” [TMQ 17:32].

布哈里传述：先知ﷺ说：“谁有能力结婚，就应当结婚，因为那能帮助他降低视线，守护贞洁。”

Bukhari narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him lower his gaze and guard his modesty.”.

孝顺父母：

Obedience to parents :

尊敬和孝顺父母是穆斯林在一生中都必须履行的义务。伊斯兰禁止子女辱骂、侮辱你们，甚至禁止他们用粗暴的语气对你们说话。安拉(SWT)说：

Respect and obedience towards parents is enjoined upon all Muslims throughout their lives. Islam forbids your children to insult, abuse or even speak in a harsh tone towards you. Allah (swt) says,.

“我们确已命人善待父母。他的母亲怀他时，是一重又一重的艰辛；他的断奶，在两年之内。”（请听这命令）“你们应当感谢我和你们的父母；归宿只在于我。但如果他们极力迫使你以我所没有知识的事物与我同list，你就不要服从他们。”[TMQ 31:14-15]

“And we have enjoined upon man to be good to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him. And in years twain was his weaning : (Hear the command) Show gratitude to Me and your parents : To me is (your final) goal. But if they strive to make you join in worship with me things of that which you have no knowledge, obey them not.” [TMQ 31:14-15].

厌食症、抑郁症和自杀。这些只是年轻人因媒体对“理想身材”的描绘而直接产生的诸多问题中的几个。大多数普通人都难以达到这一标准，然而年轻人却不得不努力去迎合这些不切实际的目标。在伊斯兰教中，重点在于个人的品格以及他或她的敬畏之心（taqwa），而非身体特征。

Anorexia, depression and suicide. These are a few among many of the problems which arise in young people as a direct result of the way in which the media portrays the ‘ideal body.’ The achievement of this is beyond most ordinary people, yet young people find themselves forced to strive to conform to these unrealistic goals. In Islam, the emphasis is upon the character of the individual and his or her taqwa, as opposed to physical attributes.

安拉(SWT)说:"人类啊!我确已用一个男人和一个女人创造你们,并使你们分为万族万支,以便你们互相认识。在安拉看来,你们中最尊贵的人,是最敬畏安拉的人。"[TMQ 49:13]。

Allah (swt) says, “O mankind! We have created you male and female, and have made you nations and tribes that you may know one another. Lo! the noblest of you in the sight of Allah, is the best in conduct.” [TMQ 49:13].

当你的孩子成年之后，角色实际上就颠倒过来了，轮到孩子去回报你所给予他们的恩情与慈爱。在西方，年迈的父母常被视为累赘。医院和养老院里住满了年老孤独的人，他们为个人主义社会付出了代价。在伊斯兰教中，赡养你晚年的责任落在你的子女身上。安拉（SWT）说：

When your child achieves adulthood, the roles are effectively reversed, and it is time for your child to repay the kindness and benevolence that you have given them. In the West, aged parents are seen as a nuisance. Hospitals and residential homes are full of old and lonely people who pay the price of an individualistic society. In Islam, the responsibility to look after you in your old age lies on your children. Allah (swt) says,.

“你们要善待父母。如果他们中的一位或两位在你的照顾下活到老年，你绝不可对他们说“呸”，也不可斥责他们，而要用恭敬的言语对他们说话，并怀着谦卑的慈爱为他们张开双翼，说：“我的主啊！求你怜悯他们，正如他们在我幼小时养育我一样。””[TMQ 17:23-24]

“And do good to your parents. Should one of them, or both, attain old age in your care, never say ‘oof’ to them or scold them, but (always) speak to them with reverent speech, and spread over them humbly the wings of your tenderness, and say, “Oh my sustainer! Bestow Your grace upon them, even as they cherished and reared me as a child.” [TMQ 17:23-24].

在西方抚养子女是一场艰难的斗争。孩子们一方面从父母那里、另一方面从周围的社会那里接收到相互矛盾的信息，难怪我们的许多青年会走上歧途。问题的关键在于重新组织你周围世界中盛行的价值观和榜样，因为它们影响着你的孩子的成长和行为方式。因此，只有在伊斯兰国的引导之下，并借助它所提供的社会稳定，你才能确信拥有幸福、稳定和成功的家庭生活。

Bringing up your children in the West is an uphill struggle. With all the confused messages that they receive, from their parents on the one hand and the rest of the society around them on the other, it is no wonder why so many of our youth are going astray. The key to the problem lies in the reorganisation of the values and role models which are prevalent in the world around you, which affect the way in which your child develops and behaves. Thus, it is only under the guidance of the Islamic State, and the social stability that it offers, that you can be sure of a happy, stable and successful family life.