每当有人想娶一名女子时，他有权看她，但不得在独处（Khulwahy）的情况下看。Jabir 说，真主的使者（pbuh）说："如果一个男人向一名女子求婚，并且他能够看到那些能促使他娶她的东西，那就让他去看。"他说："我曾向一名女子求婚，我过去常常从隐蔽处看她，我这样做，直到我看到了能促使我娶她的东西，然后我便娶了她。"无论她是否同意，看她都是允许的。这是因为先知（pbuh）命令我们可以不受限制地去看。在Jabir的圣训中（我过去常躲藏着看），但是，与她独处（Khulwahy）是不允许的。因为先知（pbuh）说："凡信仰真主和末日的人，不得在没有她的mahram的情况下与女子独处，因为他们之中的第三者是恶魔。"这是一条通用的原则，求婚者并不因此得到例外，看的情况也是如此。求婚者可以看她的脸和手，以及其他部位。这是因为看脸和手对所有人都是允许的，包括求婚者在内。因此，若只对求婚者给予例外，除非意味着允许他看到脸和手以外的部位，否则便毫无意义。另外，使者（pbuh）说："去看她。"这是通用的表述，因此包括脸和手以及其他部位，而为了求婚，这些部位是需要了解的。此外，真主（swt）命令信士们低下视线。低下视线要求人不应直视，无论是男子看女子，还是女子看男子。Jabir的圣训允许求婚者直视女子，因此，它将他排除在低下视线的命令之外。 这意味着，信道的男子必须低下视线；但求婚者则有权不低下视线，以便他们能够看向自己想要求娶的女子。

Whenever someone wants to marry a woman, He has the right to look at her but not in seclusion (Khulwahy). Jabir said that the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: “If a man proposes to a woman and He is able to look at whatever would encourage Him to marry her, let Him do so.” He said, “I proposed to a woman whom I used to look at from a hide out, I did this until I saw what invited me to marry her then I married her.” It is allowed to look at her with or without her permission. This is due to the fact that the Prophet (pbuh) ordered us to look without restriction. In the Hadith of Jabir (I used to hide and look) it is not allowed, however, to be in seclusion (Khulwahy) with her. For the Prophet (pbuh) said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Day of Judgement He should not be in a khulwahy with a woman without her mahram for the third (person) that will be with them is the shaytan.” This is a general rule, and no exception is made for the one who is seeking marriage, as is the case with looking. The person seeking marriage may look at the face and the hands as well as other parts. This is due to the fact that looking at the face and hands is allowed for everyone, including the one seeking marriage. So giving an exception to the one who is seeking marriage would be meaningless unless it means allowing Him to see more than the face and hands. Also, the Messenger (pbuh) said: “To look at her”. This is general and therefore includes the face and hands as well as other parts, which are needed to be known for the purpose of marriage in order for Him to propose to her. In addition, Allah (swt) commanded the believers to lower their gaze. Lowering their gaze requires that one should not look directly, be they men to women, or women to men. The Hadith of Jabir allows the marriage seeker to look directly at the woman and therefore, it excludes Him from the order of lowering the gaze. This means, believing men must lower their gaze except the ones proposing, who have the right not to lower their gaze, in order for them to look at the women they seek to propose to.